RSVP 💌 (if you’re ready to open it, you’re ready to respond)

How often do you receive an invitation via Paperless Post or Evite, open it, and then forget to respond?  This used to happen to me more frequently than I’d like to admit.  I’d open the invitation, get distracted and then forget to respond, leaving the host hanging (and cue that awkward mass e-mail I hate to send when I host – ‘Please RSVP’).  Dun dun dun!

When my first daughter was in her toddler years, our birthday parties were mostly held at our home and it wasn’t all-that-necessary for me to know my exact numbers.  But now that my kids like to have their parties at play places, there’s always a hard cutoff date that you have to know your numbers by.  And they are serious about those numbers.  Go over 25 and you have to get an extra employee, extra fees, sign over rights to your firstborn child, etc.

In addition to the venue’s restraints, the host also needs the RSVP’s to consider wether they’ll have space to invite siblings, and to plan for purchasing food and party favors (and oh-hey, it’s okay to skip party favors!  Still Polite AF).

Here are Polite AF’s Rules on RSVP-ing for E-Invitations:

Since the host can see immediately when you’ve opened the e-invitation (and you can see the date and time from the email, before going to the invitation link), consider handling this one of three ways:

  1. If you’re not ready to even think about it yet, don’t open the invitation.  Mark it as unread in your inbox and come back to it when you’re ready to RSVP.
  2. If you need to check your schedule or decide if you really want to go, respond with a “maybe” and write the host a quick personal note that you’ll let them know as soon as you know.
  3. If you know you’ll be there (or that you won’t), just respond right away.  This is the most polite way to handle it – your host will have their numbers and you will have your calendar in order.

What are your experiences with Hosting and Attending RSVPs?  Any good stories for me?