I don’t know about you. But I’m feeling 22! Just kidding. It’s not a milestone birthday for me which makes it even more ridiculous/hilarious that we did a cake smash for my 34th birthday.
There’s always something to celebrate when we remember to be true to ourselves, who we are, what we love and what makes us happy. Even if that’s a lavender iced tea in the middle of the afternoon and you have to schlep all your kiddos to the coffee shop to get the one you want. It matters. Because you matter — your feelings and experiences are important, and no one is going to prioritize those things for you. That’s your job.
And the truth is, no one thinks less of you for prioritizing your needs. (Plus, turns out, kids actually really like going to the coffee shop and don’t mind a bit getting in-and-out of their car seats for the tenth time in a day).
Being parents of three little ones — and busier than POTUS on Twitter — it’s easy to for my husband and me to forget to do things for ourselves. We take turns a lot. Sleeping in, working out. But we cherish this time while our kids are little and need us so much because especially the third time around, we know babies don’t keep. They grow up quickly (well, some days) and want to do it “all by myself” before you know it.
In the city we live in, my husband and I are considered young parents. Totally normal ages anywhere else, but because we were 27 when we had our daughter, 29 when we had our oldest son, and 32 when we had our baby, I hear a lot of ‘Wow, you were really young when you had kids’. Or “You don’t look old enough to have three kids!”
This is an example of something that would have made me feel self-conscious in the past. I’m realizing more and more that it just doesn’t matter. I’m a happy person who is content with my decisions. So let them be rude. This is my life experience, not theirs. They’re likely processing something of their own that has nothing to do with me. I used to internalize shitty comments and think ‘oh, they won’t want to be friends with [my husband and me] since we’re younger’.
When really, it’s the other way around. If a person is that insensitive and judgemental and eliminates good people as friends because of their age, etc., etc., I don’t want to be friends with them anyway.
P.S. Could you imagine if someone said it the other way around? “Wow, you were really old when you started having kids”. Yeah, no. Filters, people!
I’ve re-implemented a lot of forgotten lessons this year and I wanted to sum it up for you here. My fave lessons and Polite AF articles, favorite quotes from friends and readers, my newfound love for Instagram Blogging (almost 10k followers!)…and a list of my faves wouldn’t be complete without my favorite makeup and kids’ products. Just keep scrollin’ down. <3
4. Don’t let someone else’s “ish” negatively affect you. I’m talking to you, fellow sensitive/empathetic people
5. Remember where you came from. I love my roots. Dirt and all.