Remembering Your Roots. City Girl, Country Heart.


I love my city, but after more than a decade in Los Angeles, I’m having to remind myself to keep it country in my heart.

Who I am is an amalgam of where I’m from.  It’s not perfect there, but what I miss about my childhood growing up in a small town…

So no, LA Friends.  I don’t “need more help”.  

When my mom went to work I watched all of the kids.  I have a brother and sister and two step brothers and whatever friends were over at the time.  Made lunch (one time I did put a frozen bagel in the microwave only to forget about it and melt the whole microwave).  

Never gave a thought to it until some of my friends were like “you’ve got your hands full!” I wish I would’ve been stronger in myself at the time.  My husband (and childhood friends) would tell you that standing up for myself has never been a problem, but there’s something that happened along the way of motherhood, that I started worrying too much about what other people thought.  Of how young I was when I had Scarlet, of…

Sorry guys.  My backbone is back and here is my PSA:  could you imagine if I said that the other way around.  Someone literally said to me:” Wow, you started young!”  What if I said “Wow, you started old!”  

When did being “an old soul” begin having a negative connotation?  I always took it as a compliment but somewhere along the way, it’s become a thing that something must’ve happened to you to make you like that.  Well, who hasn’t had something happen to them?  My husband and I both experienced a lot of loss.  Him more than me.  But our kids are old souls, too, because they are raised by us.  And that’s a good thing, damn it.  Being half raised by my grandparents, I love 50s music and I’ve been made fun of for talking like I’m from the 1800s.  We’re formal.  And funny.  So both.  

Another thing I’m sick of hearing is “I don’t know how you do it”.  Well, I do it, and I love it.  This is not something you’d hear where I’m from.  A family with three children isn’t an anomaly outside of the cities, people!  And where I’m from, the kids are invited, too.  DOn’t get me wrong, I like a date night as much as the next Angeleno, but…

Thoughts on shit you shouldn’t say to a pregnant woman.

Thoughts on…

Basically, don’t let other people’s hang ups affect you.  Stay true to you.  Doesn’t matter what other people think or say…but mind your manners anyway!